Different Strokes for Different Folks
I recently read this article on The Everygirl, “Do You Feel Like You’re at a Different Place Than All of Your Friends?” and I wanted to share it with anyone who may have missed it. The article touches on many subjects including children, dating, careers, marriage, and education. Many women shared their experiences and I think in reading the article you will find, we all seem to have the same concerns, thought, and anxieties.
I consider myself to be confident, but I do have doubts and not always nice thoughts do occasionally creep in. It is hard to not compare ourselves to others. I see other women my age in all walks of life – married, single, still in school, mothers, the list goes on. I also realize no matter what stage of life these women are in, I only see the portion of their life that they choose to share online. I do it too. I don’t show the days my house is a mess, I’m a mess, or that I am annoyed with my parents or my boyfriend.
I most identified with Murray’s part in the article. I moved from the south to Ireland less than a year after graduating from college. Being engaged by the end of your senior year of college is expected (better get yah ring by spring!) along with a wedding, settling into a home, a career, and having babies. Well, I had no boyfriend in college so the whole getting engaged by the end of school thing wasn’t ever going to happen for me. Besides, I was only 21 when I graduated! Practically a baby!
Moving abroad has made me more confident and taught me, like what Murray said, not everyone is operating at the same pace. And that is okay! Different strokes for different folks is what it really comes down to. You know that cheesy quote that goes something like, “Remember when what you have is what you wished for”? As corny as it is, we all know it, and it does serve as a good reminder. I used to be so obsessed with doing my master's abroad and moving to Ireland. I have now successfully done both things. Now when my mind shifts to the goals I am anxious to achieve I remind myself of the time in my life that I could not wait to complete my degree and be living abroad. That worked out – in its own time, and with my efforts. The same will happen for the goals I have now – in time.
We must remember to enjoy each season we are experiencing and try our hardest to not compare it to others. I hope this article, and my ramblings, help you to remember this!
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